A guest post by Kate | A Mind Full
You make plans. You show up.
But then you sit down and realize: there’s someone new at the table. And they’re already mid-monologue.
It’s not just small talk. It’s a takeover.
You know the type — the ones who don’t just speak, they broadcast. Who don’t ask, don’t pause, don’t notice. They talk to fill the air, to keep the spotlight, to feel in control. Not because the moment needs their words — but because silence makes them uncomfortable.
They interrupt. Talk over. Talk louder. Talk longer. And when you try to say something — even just a beat later — it’s like you never opened your mouth.
At some point, you stop trying.
Not because you’re shy. Not because you have nothing to say. But because fighting to be heard in a space like that feels like yelling into wind.
And honestly? You’d rather save your breath than waste it proving you exist.
Some people think volume equals value. That fast talking means smart thinking. But all that noise? It’s not power. It’s panic dressed up as dominance.
You don’t owe anyone your energy just because they’re louder. You don’t have to match their pace, volume, or chaos to be valid in the room.
Sometimes the strongest move is to sit back and say — not today. Not giving away my calm just because you can’t handle yours.
Honor your inner calm more than the chaos outside you.
And if you’ve ever left a table feeling like you weren’t part of the conversation — don’t gaslight yourself into thinking it was you.
It wasn’t.
You were just in the presence of someone who mistakes talking for connecting — and assumes silence means agreement. Let them think what they want. You’ve got nothing to prove.
If this resonated with you, I invite you to read more here:
Why I Go Quiet Around Loud People — It’s Not What You Think
With warmth,
Kate
@amindfullblog | http://www.amindfull.blog
About A Mind Full
A Mind Full is a blog for anyone trying to quiet the noise inside. Built by Kate — a full-time mom turned full-time creator — it offers honest reflections on overthinking, anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and finding your voice again. Through storytelling, mental wellness tools, and a few gentle reminders, it’s a space to feel seen — and supported.
I invited Kate to write a guest post because her writing on overthinking and anxiety deeply resonated with me – something we all experience. Her blog offers comfort and connection, and I hope you resonated with this piece by feeling seen and supported. I highly recommend checking out more of her work.
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