Struggling with the fear of judgment? This empowering post explores why we seek approval, how to build self-confidence, and why being unapologetically yourself is the most freeing thing you can do.
I made an Instagram post earlier this week about how my work colleagues laughed at me for how I dressed.
Yes, it hurt in the moment, but why should I care what others think of me?
We are social beings, so fitting in or being liked by others is part of who we are. However, are we trying to be accepted by those who aren’t actually important to us? Why do we seek approval from others?
The Pressure to fit in starts early on
If we take a step back, we are forced to fit in with those we go to school with and then with those we work with. Sometimes, we don’t feel free to be who we are. We may lose our confidence if we don’t fit in with those around us, so we slowly lose our spark depending on who we are around with. Almost like a safety mechanism, because it’s easier to fake it to fit in than be considered an outcast, right?
Rebuilding Confidence from Within
The more I become sure of who I am, the less others bother me. I’ve learnt this by increasing the love I have for myself through building my confidence. I spend less time needing to be accepted by others because I no longer feel like I need their approval to be me.
I have to admit it can feel lonely but if you’re still kind and polite to others, then it poorly reflects their behaviour.
If we’re busy living always wondering what others think of us, we’re not living for ourselves we are living for other people.
I’m not going to lie, not being accepted by a group of people does hurt. But more often than not, these people are temprory. They might be people that you work with or friends that you will eventually outgrow. Because if I’ve learnt anything, those that truly accept you for you are, are those who are meant to stick around.
The Power of Being Unapologetically You
A lot of those who might judge us by how we look, dress or express ourselves are only looking at us from a surface level. Those that we work with don’t know our biggest dreams or our past history; they just know us as work colleagues. Those that we walk past that look us up and down, we may never see again.
How to not worry about what others think?
- Be sure of who you are – the more you accept yourself, the less you need approval from others
- Don’t ignore how you feel, but don’t dwell on it. It’s important to acknowledge how you feel; however, it’s more important to acknowledge how you pick yourself up and keep moving forward.
- Take your power back. Don’t let what others think control how you live your life or how you feel about yourself.
So keep being you because let’s be honest, being like everyone else is boring!
Keep shining,
Madeline
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