Have you ever noticed that negative thoughts tend to linger for much longer than positive ones? Let’s dive into why and how we can reshape our mindset.
I’ve noticed that when I have negative thoughts, they seem to take over everything. It can start with something small, and then before I know it, it’s grown into this beast. I’ve created all these negative scenarios that will probably never happen.
For some reason, it’s so much easier to linger on these thoughts than it is to let them go. It’s almost as if we have a sense to control the situation or get back at the person.
The amount of time I have wasted festering over these thoughts is ridiculous.
I’ve also found that having anxiety doesn’t help. This sense to control the situation, even though I have zero control over people and their behaviours.
I saw this girl saying on Tik Tok that she calls her brain a name. So, I thought I’d give it a go, and it sure has helped. I call my brain Susan. No idea why, and I apologise to anyone reading this who’s called Susan, but it seems to have worked. So now, every time I have a negative thought or start creating negative scenarios, I say “okay, Susan, that’s enough” or “Thanks, Susan, but you can leave now”.
I think the reason why it’s worked is because I’m able to dissociate the thoughts. These thoughts aren’t facts. I’m able to identify that these thoughts don’t have any control over me, and I’m able to let go.
Sometimes, we forget that these are merely thoughts based on our current feelings. We are programmed to see the negative in things. That’s why trying to have a positive mindset is like rewiring your brain. It’s not easy.
Our thoughts are only thoughts, but when we get stuck in this cycle of negative thinking, it’s challenging to break free.
So let’s dive into how we can rewire our brain –
- Above, I mentioned calling your brain by name. So, when you’re having these negative thoughts, you can dissociate them from yourself.
- Really challenge your thoughts. Is what you’re thinking true, and what is the likelihood of it happening?
- If something or someone annoys you, try to see the lighter side. Perhaps they’re having a bad day, and it’s got nothing to do with you. Not everything that happens is personal.
- Practice gratitude. Practising gratitude can help us feel grounded and ignore the noise around us, allowing us to focus on what is truly important.
- One act of kindness each day. Helping others can make us feel better and help them see the good in the world.
These are all tips that help us rewire our brains. Take each day as it comes, as we can’t expect ourselves to be positive all the time, but finding that balance is key.
I hope this helps you, and remember always to keep shining.
Madeline
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